Let’s just say that I am nothing if not a peacemaker. I don’t like conflict. I like for everyone to be happy and I always feel the need to be the one to make it so. Especially when it comes to my husband.

Until now. As Popeye™ once said, “I’ve had all I can stand, and I can’t stands no more!”

You see, conflict has reared its ugly head, and for once, I am determined to get MY way. Hear me out, folks.

I’m talking about my hair.

What works for my husband is long and grey. What works for me is some semblance of style and not looking like my 78-yr old mother.

Exhibit A: Photo of subject taken on December 5th. Note the 3 inches of *lovely* new GREY! growth and the dull, stringy, lifeless (not to mention “NO STYLE OF ANY KIND”) hair. Please disregard the horrible, washed out look of the defendant due to the unfortunate pairing of camera flash, no makeup, and yellow sweater that is TOTALLY the wrong season for her:

Note the “Deer-In-The-Headlights” look. She’s obviously GUILTY of neglect, and looks pretty upset that she’s been caught with her hair down.

Luckily, she has a wonderful friend who bailed her out of her hair prison by paying for a new cut and color for her for Christmas! {cue Handel’s “Hallelujah” chorus}

Exhibit B: Photo of subject taken 3 hours after haircut and lowlights to help blend in the grey as it’s growing in, because, 3 inches of white on top of 9 inches of dark brown really should be a crime. {my before was just a little more “hillbilly” than what I was going for, y’all}

Note the relaxed and happy look on her face, even sans makeup. (Yes, I am a sahm mom who NEVER wears makeup unless I go to church, or on a date with my husband – it’s too much trouble!)

The conflict was within me, to be honest. My husband just wants me to be happy. But I wanted to please my husband and have beautiful long, silvery-white hair {think “Storm” from Fantastic Four}, but the reality is that I’m almost 40, overweight,and I look nothing like Halle Berry. It’s a good look on her, not on me. I knew it, but was really clueless what to do about it. I had taken to wearing my hair up in a clip every day of the week until I could grow it out long enough to get all the color cut off.

So what works for me? Having a good friend who listened to me whine and complain to her about my hair and the way it was making me feel and who was willing to take action on my behalf and rescue me from my pit of “desp-hair”. She is wonderful, not because she paid for my hair makeover, but because she is one of the most encouraging and uplifting people I have ever met, and she would never tell me I was having a bad hair day! 🙂

I rest my case.

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21 Comments on Long overdue: A New ‘Do

  1. rachel whetzel
    December 17, 2008 at 10:29 am (15 years ago)

    I love you both ways… I see your inner “storm”… lol BUT your new ‘do looks SWEET!! Really nice.

  2. Megan@SortaCrunchy
    December 17, 2008 at 10:46 am (15 years ago)


    (I never wear make-up except for church and dinners with friends.)

  3. dianne - bunny trails
    December 17, 2008 at 11:14 am (15 years ago)

    Looks great, Karen! I know how it is when you’re not happy with your hair – life is all out of whack. Amazing what a good do does for perspective and attitude. 😀

  4. Jeni
    December 17, 2008 at 11:27 am (15 years ago)

    Much better, Karen! Your before wasn’t bad, but I really like the after – it makes you look perkier somehow.

    And I never wear makeup, either. Way too much trouble for every day.

  5. Megan (FriedOkra)
    December 17, 2008 at 2:21 pm (15 years ago)

    It looks GORGEOUS. I’m so glad you are feeling better. That’s what makes the biggest difference, you know? Hug hug hug.


  6. homebutnotalone
    December 17, 2008 at 4:04 pm (15 years ago)

    Make-up – what’s make-up?????

    I’m thinking I really need to get rid of that photo on my side bar as well —— I don’t actually look like that any more 🙂

    You look great!!

  7. Sprittibee
    December 17, 2008 at 4:37 pm (15 years ago)

    Very flattering. Hey – I’ll be in town this weekend. Want to meet up for lunch or dinner Sat? 😉

  8. Headless Mom
    December 17, 2008 at 7:13 pm (15 years ago)

    You look FAB! (Both ways, really, but I know that you only really want to hear about the new…) I got mine done recently, too, and it does wonders for the outlook, doesn’t it?

  9. BarbaraLee
    December 17, 2008 at 8:34 pm (15 years ago)

    Grey hair. Who needs it. I am afraid of coloring my hair. I just don’t want to keep up w/it or the $$$. I have a few here and there but b/c my hair is dark guess what sticks out.

  10. Andrea
    December 17, 2008 at 10:13 pm (15 years ago)

    cute hair!

  11. MelADramatic Mommy
    December 17, 2008 at 10:46 pm (15 years ago)

    Lovely and very flattering!

  12. Beth at I Should Be Folding Laundry
    December 18, 2008 at 9:39 am (15 years ago)

    I love it! I just had the “grey hair, low light” discussion with my hairstylist this morning.

    And I’m only 31.

    You look great. and seriously, with your eyes? You don’t need make up. WOW.

  13. Beth at I Should Be Folding Laundry
    December 18, 2008 at 9:40 am (15 years ago)

    Just reading your comments, am I the only one who wears makeup everyday no matter what?

  14. Always Been Different
    December 18, 2008 at 12:03 pm (15 years ago)

    You look FABULOUS Darling just FABULOUS!!!!!

  15. Lora Lynn @ Vitafamiliae
    December 18, 2008 at 4:05 pm (15 years ago)

    You look great. And I love your frogs on the top of the blog, by the way.

  16. Hey it's Amy Shipp
    December 18, 2008 at 9:47 pm (15 years ago)

    I LOOOVE your new do! It is fabulous 😀

  17. Melanie
    December 19, 2008 at 8:08 am (15 years ago)

    Love the new “do”! What a great friend you do have!

    Merry Christmas!

  18. Jenny 867-5309
    December 19, 2008 at 1:23 pm (15 years ago)

    Whoa!!! Look at the hot-mama!!! I’ve been the person in that ‘before’ pic. Tried the whole grow out the natural gray (dang that stinkin’ Ms. Storm!), but it just makes me look tired. I, like you, gave up.

    You look awesome!!!

  19. Emily
    December 19, 2008 at 7:07 pm (15 years ago)

    your hair looks great – also that blue is lovely on you!

    i think the gray really makes your eyes pop, though!

  20. Mel @ A Box of Chocolates
    December 19, 2008 at 7:26 pm (15 years ago)

    I like the new do! You deserve it and just in time for the holidays. I’m not a makeup person either and don’t even always wear it to church. You know it is a special event if I have on my coverup.

  21. Phyllis@Aimless Conversation
    December 20, 2008 at 8:47 pm (15 years ago)

    It really does perk a gal up to have great hair. =) I love the new look!!

    What is it w/ men and long hair anyways? Mine wishes I would grow mine out and get a spiral perm. Can you say 1990?

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